‘09 Jan 15 4:01 pm. Another aspect of responsibility is in having people depend on you, they need you.. Just writing the word “need” and I feel pressure. People depending on me, needing me, is another issue, and I feel it’s opening up a whole new can of worms.
People need you for any number of reasons. Either they “need” you, or you feel they “need” you. I just felt how there are millions upon millions of people, (essence) dead people trapped in the astral plane for this very reason. They are trapped because they feel responsible or needed by those still living in the physical. Trapped out of some misguided sense of duty, honor, loyalty, protection, and also through guilt and shame.
Hummmmm. I remember that after 10 years of marriage, the only reason I stayed for another 9 years was because I felt that my children needed me and that I was responsible for them. Hindsight says that I would have created less damage to our children and to her and me, had I been real and not pretended that everything was OK when it wasn’t, as the children already knew differently.