’10 Jan 05 It’s come to my realization again that there is this mass unconscious need and drive in people to either be loved and accepted, or to be recognized, respected and feared by their peers. Both have a desire to feel good, but in opposing ways. I’ve been following a few groups on line and have also seen the interplay with people that I have personal contact with. Even though people may be united in a common cause, or ideal, there is never a real consensus within the group unless of course, it’s against another person in the group, or another group that doesn’t fit in to their beliefs and judgments.
Take religion as a prime example of this unconscious social programing. You have various Christian denominations such as Catholics, Baptists, Evangelicals, Lutherans, Presbyterians, Jehovah Witness, etc. and all are loosely united within their specific denominations. All piously claiming to be Christians, yet strongly opposed to any other Christian denomination point-of-view. Of course they all set aside their Christian bickering and differences when they are confronted by what they deem a common enemy, i.e. the threat of another religion like Muslim, Buddhist, Hindu, or even the lack of a religion. When confronted by what they see as a conflict to their common Christian beliefs and dogma, they set aside their individual differences and join in a common cause to oppose an outside threat that is seen as different, the problem, and the enemy to their status quo and position of power. They become like a pack of wolves joining together for the hunt, yet when the kill and feast is over, they return to their individual roles and power plays within their group.
This also holds true in other social settings such as politics where you have one social ideology fighting against another, i.e. democracy versus communism, verses dictator, verses King / Queen, etc.. Other social issues that unite and splinter humanity are those of race, ethnic origin, language and social culture and traditions. Every social activity, or thing, sets itself up for competition and one upmanship be it a sports team, radio, TV, as well as things like cell phones, computers, clothes, food, brands and labels, you name it, and you can find judgments and a group, pro or con.
This one upmanship need to be better, or superior, also trickles down into our personal relationships and our interactions with others, where when activated or triggered by an unresolved personal issue, we react to the experiences because of our imprints, programs, and beliefs, that we are not good enough. Believing that we are about to be over-powered, we re-act to the situation by either fighting, running or giving up. And even in that, we seek others that we are aligned with, like any of the 12 step groups or other groups like cancer, AIDS, Bi-Polar, etc. or even sports or social groups that makes us feel better, and not alone, or powerless.
People struggle to interact with one another, but until they end their own inner struggles, the conflicts in their outer reality will continue in one form or another, and they will continue to seek out others that agree with their point-of-view, making them falsely believe that their beliefs and judgments are valid, and thus giving them a sense of worth and value. It’s a never ending cycle as all that changes is the form of the experience.