During the first week in May, a lot of things happened to Marian. She had been having problems with her shoulders as she found out that both her rotator cuffs are torn and she has been waiting to see her surgeon and a specialist to see what can be done to help her. Her Doctor called while she was out and I took the message which was that her appointment had been moved up. She also suggested that Marian get some physiotherapy to help ease the pain. When I gave Mariana the message, she snapped at me saying ,”And who is going to pay for it?” I asked if her insurance covered her and she said that it only covered her for physio as long as it was prescribed by a doctor as part of a treatment for a new injury, and that she couldn’t afford it.
I thought to myself, she can’t afford to pay for physiotherapy to help her Body yet she has no problem spending money on things she doesn’t need to make her feel good. I felt there was no point in saying anything to her as no matter what I said, it wouldn’t make any difference as she has her point of view and nothing is going to change it.
Later that afternoon, Marian missed the bottom step coming down the basement and hit her head on the carpeted concrete floor. About an hour later she asked me to take her to emergency as her head was hurting. The found nothing, but suggested to wake her every hour for a few hours. The next day she said she her head was better, but still sore and that she was feeling dizzy and said that she was now getting the vertigo that I had and a friend of hers had.
A couple of days later she got up to go to the bathroom around 10:00 pm (no lights on) and tripped over some stuff on the floor that she had packed for the move. I heard her pounding on the floor and at first I thought she was signaling me that I had a phone call as that is what she usually does. I checked the phone but all I got was dial tone. Just then I heard her again and I went upstairs to see what she wanted. I found her lying face down on the floor, her head and shoulders in the open closet. She said she didn’t have the strength to get up as her arms hurt. I struggled to help her up as she was not putting any effort into getting up herself. I finally got her to her feet and she said she was OK.
A couple of days after that episode I was awakened in the middle of the night by sound of a faint
muffled voice. I didn’t know if it was Marian upstairs or if it was coming from the neighbors next door or outside. After a few minutes, I got up and went upstairs and I heard Marian calling out from her room. She had fallen again and this time she was lying face down on the floor between her bed and the wall. There was no way that I could lift her in that position so I managed to turn her over and then had her brace her feet against the night table so that I could lift her up. I asked her what happened and she said she just got dizzy and fell, and blamed it on vertigo.
On Saturday she said she wasn’t feeling good and was still feeling dizzy and was going to take it easy and stay in her room. On Sunday, May 08, Mothers day, at 5:00 am, I again heard a commotion upstairs and went up to see what was going on. This time I found her lying on her bed, with her feet on the floor but unable to stand or walk. She said she needed to go to the bathroom but I knew by how she was talking and moving that she was in trouble. I called 911 as there was no way that I could get her to the hospital. Within a few minutes the ambulance came and took her to the hospital and after running a few tests, they admitted her. Turns out she had a severe kidney infection. She was in the hospital until Thursday May 12.